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9 Strategies For Non-Oppressive Polyamory

Janani Balasubramanian writes for Black Girl Dangerous (@BGDblog) about power dynamics in poly relationships. All of these are good to keep in mind, #8 especially applies to RA: Recognize that your non-romantic and non-sexual relationships are also real and valid! Keep your understanding of love broad and political accordingly. Read 9 Strategies for Non-Oppressive Polyamory 

Relationship Anarchy is Not Post-Polyamory

This blog post was written by flamingfoxtale (@imnocowboy) on the website Emotional Mutation in response to the article The Mass Exodus of Polyamorous People Toward Relationship Anarchy, written by Louise Leontiades (@AskLouloria). Flamingfoxtale writes that relationship anarchy is not just a different way of doing intimacy; it’s an integration of your relationship politics with your…

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Zine: Non Monogamy: Doin’ it and Doin’ it and Doin’ it Well?

Zine by Andie Lyons and Shannon Perez-Darby (@PerezDarby) written in 2007 about being ‘two radically queer kids’ in Denver in 2007, from the Queer Zines Archine Project. Written around the same time as Andie Nordgren was first using the term Relationship Anarchy, you can see the seeds if it here. ‘I try to treat the people…

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Relationship Anarchy: we each only do what we want / my intentions & desires in all connections

Belenen (@belenen) on why they identify as a relationship anarchist. How do we make space for growth in our relationships, and value them beyond the standard escalator model? They write about relationships being ‘continuously voluntary associations’ and commitments as ‘making decision anew every day’. Read Blog Post

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The World Won’t Let Me Own The Friend Zone

Ghia Vitale (@GhiaWasHere) writes about her struggles using the word ‘friend’ to describe all of her relationships. Trying to live without hierarchies can result in erasure of important people in your life, as people still struggle to grasp new styles of relationships. Read The World Won’t Let Me Own The Friend Zone

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No, You Don’t Need Rules For Polyamory

In this article by Miri (@sondosia), she only briefly mentions relationship anarchy, but she does make the case for not having relationship rules. She discusses how broken rules can place blame on someone else, where if you don’t have rules you must take responsibility for yourself and your own feelings. Read No, You Don’t Need…

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Lessons to Our Younger Selves- Polysingleish Interviews Louisa Leontiades

Louisa Leontiades (@AskLouloria), who runs the blog Postmodern Woman, has written some great articles about relationship anarchy. In this post, she is interviewed by Mel (@PolySingleish) and they talk about her writing, non monogamy in Europe, living outside the norm, and self reflection. Read the interview here

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Anarchism: What It Really Stands For

Emma Goldman is considered one of the most important figures in the history of anarchism. She was a well known lecturer, and traveled all over America and Europe speaking about anarchism and women’s rights. in 1906 started her own publication Mother Earth, in which she wrote about anarchism, politics, labor issues, atheism, sexuality, and feminism….

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7 Ways to Practice Consent Outside of the Bedroom

Consent has been talked about more in recent years, which is great. However most of the talk focuses on sexual consent. There are many other situations in which we can apply the rule of enthusiastic consent, and in this article Suzannah Weiss (@suzannahweiss) highlights some of those ways. I think this is very relevant to…