Originally posted in 2006 on a Swedish website. Written by Andie Nordgren (@nordgren), one of the first people to use the term relationship anarchy. This is a great starting point for someone just starting to look into RA. It has nine short paragraphs that cover the basics, from valuing each relationship independently to designing commitments that work in your life.
After reading The Problem With Polynormativity, Eve Rickert (@everickert) posts a helpful discussion about what hierarchy in relationships looks like. She gives some real life examples, talks about needs, boundaries, and personal agency. Read Polyamory and Hierarchy
The mainstream seems fascinated with polyamory, but only when it looks surprisingly similar to monogamy. Andrea Zanin (@sexgeekAZ) explains what polynormativity looks like, and some of the problems it causes in non-monogamous relationships. Read The Problem With Polynormativity
In this article by Miri (@sondosia), she only briefly mentions relationship anarchy, but she does make the case for not having relationship rules. She discusses how broken rules can place blame on someone else, where if you don’t have rules you must take responsibility for yourself and your own feelings. Read No, You Don’t Need…
A really great article, written by an asexual and very relevant to RA. In Part 1, David Jay (@davidgljay) discusses replacing words like boyfriend/girlfriend and romance with relationship, and the freedom that allows for. Read Focus on Relationships
Full Transcript Hi, I’m Kale. Today I wanted to talk about the ways we show love when we are super busy humans and we don’t have a ton of time. There are a lot traditional ways of showing someone that you care about them. One of the biggest ones is how much time you spend…
In part two of Blogger Rotten Zucchini’s series, they discuss why using descriptive tools is useful, and pretending we don’t need them can be harmful. Read Part 2: warning flags re: “relationship anarchy”