Full Transcript Hi, I’m Kale! And I’m Victor! Today we wanted to talk about relationship anarchist milestones; some of the ways we show meaning, significance, and importance in our relationships. In our last video we talked about what is the relationship escalator. Relationship anarchists are inherently off the escalator. And once you’re off the relationship…
Full Transcript Hi I’m Kale! And I’m Victor! Today we want to talk about the relationship escalator: what that is, and how it impacts our relationships. How would you describe the relationship escalator? I would say the relationship escalator is basically the way society thinks a relationship is ‘supposed’ to go, the default. Picture an…
Full Transcript Hi, I’m Kale. And this is Victor. Hi! This is my first video in awhile! I want to talk about what I’ve been up to for the past year, introduce you to Victor and talk about what we’re going to get up to. A little over a year ago, I started a pretty…
Full Transcript Hi, I’m Kale. Today I wanted to talk about some of the ways that hierarchy can creep into our relationships – through cohabitation. Let’s talk about some of the ways that we can actively dismantle that hierarchy. One of the steps of the relationship escalator is to move in with a partner. There…
Full Transcript Hi, I’m Kale. With Christmas coming up, I thought I would talk a little about holidays and traditions, and being a relationship anarchist this time of year. The holidays are full of societal expectations and social pressures to be a certain way, and to do certain things. What does this look like for…
Full Transcript Hi, I’m Kale. Today I wanted to talk about switching up our ideas of romance and friendship a little. About how we can be more romantic towards our friends and more friendly towards our romantic partners. Society often places a hierarchy on our romantic or sexual partners over our friends. Romantic, sexual relationships…
Carolyn Yates (@c_yates) interviews Josie Kearns, a 33 year-old queer, poly, white, trans woman about opening up her relationship, identifying as a relationship anarchist and living in an intentional community. Read Poly Pocket: Building Intentional Community and Relationship Anarchy
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. Today I want to talk about how we tend to look at a relationship as either a success or a failure, and how that idea can be a fallacy. Our society tends to have a very limited definition of success when it comes to a relationship – generally it is…
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale! Today I want to talk about my experience online dating as a relationship anarchist. I started using online dating around the same time that I became non-monogamous, but before I was a relationship anarchist. I found it pretty easy to find poly people to meet up with. I did notice…
Hi, I’m Kale. Today I wanted to talk about the times when we feel left out. In non-monogamous relationships, there are going to be times when we feel left out. Like if someone we care about is spending extra time with a new person, or they are doing things together that sound really fun and…
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. Today I wanted to talk about living with fear and uncertainty. In all relationships, there is some level of unpredictability. Everyone, regardless of relationship style, might at some point have to face the fear of being alone. For monogamous couples, there are a lot of mononormative stories that help deal…
Hi, I’m Kale! Today I want to talk about coming out as a relationship anarchist or a non-monogamist. I know that I am in a very privileged position to be out so openly. I don’t think I could be much more out than to be on here making videos. I have been able to come…