Mel Mariposa (@PolySingleish) writes about the downside of Radical Self Reliance, one of the ten principles of Burning Man. She examines the problems with placing individuals above community, and how intimacy and compassion suffer when Radical Self Reliance trumps connecting to the people around you. Read Radical Self Reliance and Community Responsibility
Possibly the shortest article written about Relationship Anarchy, written by Mike Sturnin (@mi_st). Read Relationship Anarchy, My Summary
Dr. Elisabeth A. Sheff (@drelisheff1) on Psychology Today (@PsychToday) talks about things that are important to solo poly people (and relationship anarchists as well) – autonomy, valuing non-romantic relationships, facing stigma and couples privilege. Read Solo Polyamory, Singleish, Single & Poly
A really great article, written by an asexual and very relevant to RA. In Part 1, David Jay (@davidgljay) discusses replacing words like boyfriend/girlfriend and romance with relationship, and the freedom that allows for. Read Focus on Relationships
Samantha Clarke (@JillDeTrabajos) writes a short and sweet blog post on her blog with a rundown of RA, how it allows for greater intimacy, and why she became a relationship anarchist. Read Relationship Anarchy: What it is and Why it’s Awesome
Although this piece by Briallen Hopper (@briallenhopper) on @TheCut doesn’t mention relationship anarchy at all, it is a really well written and thoughtful piece about the way society values couples over friendships. As someone who has always put a ton of energy into my friendships, this article really spoke to me. Read Relying on Friendship…
As a relationship anarchist, you are constantly bumping up against the status quo. Dr. Joni Meenagh (@JoniMeenagh) wrote this post for the Dangerous Women Project (@DangerousWomen_) about ways we might value relationship structures beyond the couple. Read Challenging Marital Status
Dr. Charlie Glickman (@charlieglickman), a sex educator and author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, wrote a blog post about Consent Accidents, which he defines as different from consent violations. Consent accidents ‘happen because of error, miscommunication, misunderstanding, or not having all the information.’ What should we do if we violate a person’s consent…
A very nice, short post by Cristina on TCRN (The Conscious Resistance Network @TheConsciousRN) about freedom as the ultimate expression of love. She writes about freedom from rules and expectations as the ultimate expression of love. Read Anarchy is for lovers.
Via The Anarchist Library and written in 2004 before the term Relationship Anarchy was coined, Mae Bee discusses abolishing power structures and coercion in our relationships. Read A Green Anarchist Project on Freedom and Love
Franklin Veaux (@franklinveaux), author of More Than Two (@MTTbook) explores the difference between rules and boundaries, and how we can use direct communication to get our needs met without stepping on the needs of others. Read Polyamory without rules? Isn’t that anarchy and chaos?
A very good article by The Critical Polyamorist (@CriticalPoly), where she examines her relationship with nonmonogamy, how she has struggled against a couple-centric, rule bound society and how she works daily against her conditioned monogamy.