Belenen (@belenen) on why they identify as a relationship anarchist. How do we make space for growth in our relationships, and value them beyond the standard escalator model? They write about relationships being ‘continuously voluntary associations’ and commitments as ‘making decision anew every day’.
Zine by Andie Lyons and Shannon Perez-Darby (@PerezDarby) written in 2007 about being ‘two radically queer kids’ in Denver in 2007, from the Queer Zines Archine Project. Written around the same time as Andie Nordgren was first using the term Relationship Anarchy, you can see the seeds if it here. ‘I try to treat the people…
Carolyn Yates (@c_yates) interviews Josie Kearns, a 33 year-old queer, poly, white, trans woman about opening up her relationship, identifying as a relationship anarchist and living in an intentional community. Read Poly Pocket: Building Intentional Community and Relationship Anarchy
Louisa Leontiades (@AskLouloria), who runs the blog Postmodern Woman, has written some great articles about relationship anarchy. In this post, she is interviewed by Mel (@PolySingleish) and they talk about her writing, non monogamy in Europe, living outside the norm, and self reflection. Read the interview here
Is the most romantic thing you can say to a partner ‘I don’t need you’? This is a short post about dismantling the idea of That Special Someone, and keeping people in your life because you want them there, not because you need things from them. Read The Sweetest Thing
Most likely written pre-2007, Dean Spade discusses non-monogamous relationships in queer, trans, feminist, anti-capitalist spaces. Also included in the previously posted zine Doin’ it and Doin’ it and Doin’ it Well? Read for Lovers and Fighters
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. Today I want to talk about relationship rules, and why I don’t have any, and boundaries, and why I think they are really important. Both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships can have rules. These rules can be either assumed or explicitly agreed upon. For example, it is common for a monogamous…