Consent has been talked about more in recent years, which is great. However most of the talk focuses on sexual consent. There are many other situations in which we can apply the rule of enthusiastic consent, and in this article Suzannah Weiss (@suzannahweiss) highlights some of those ways. I think this is very relevant to relationship anarchy, which is founded on principles of consent.
Ghia Vitale (@GhiaWasHere) writes about her struggles using the word ‘friend’ to describe all of her relationships. Trying to live without hierarchies can result in erasure of important people in your life, as people still struggle to grasp new styles of relationships. Read The World Won’t Let Me Own The Friend Zone
In part two of Blogger Rotten Zucchini’s series, they discuss why using descriptive tools is useful, and pretending we don’t need them can be harmful. Read Part 2: warning flags re: “relationship anarchy”
Rob Martin (@version2beta) on @Medium explains consent using different scenarios, breaking it down into five categories: natural, explicit, implicit, delegated and appropriated. He writes that consent is a central tenet of relationship anarchy, and uses it to compare and contrast different relationship models to RA. Read Relationship Anarchy and Consent
What if we don’t need a ‘best friend’ or a ‘true love’? What if we had discussions with everyone in our life about our boundaries? @saulofhearts on @Medium applies principles of polyamory (and RA) to see how they can elevate all our relationships. Read What Polyamory Taught Me About Platonic Friendships
Most likely written pre-2007, Dean Spade discusses non-monogamous relationships in queer, trans, feminist, anti-capitalist spaces. Also included in the previously posted zine Doin’ it and Doin’ it and Doin’ it Well? Read for Lovers and Fighters
After reading The Problem With Polynormativity, Eve Rickert (@everickert) posts a helpful discussion about what hierarchy in relationships looks like. She gives some real life examples, talks about needs, boundaries, and personal agency. Read Polyamory and Hierarchy