Zine by Andie Lyons and Shannon Perez-Darby (@PerezDarby) written in 2007 about being ‘two radically queer kids’ in Denver in 2007, from the Queer Zines Archine Project. Written around the same time as Andie Nordgren was first using the term Relationship Anarchy, you can see the seeds if it here. ‘I try to treat the people I date more like my friends – to try to be respectful and thoughtful and have boundaries and reasonable expectations – and try to treat my friends more like my dates – give them special attention, honor my commitments to them, be consistent, and invest deeply in our futures together.’
Belenen (@belenen) on why they identify as a relationship anarchist. How do we make space for growth in our relationships, and value them beyond the standard escalator model? They write about relationships being ‘continuously voluntary associations’ and commitments as ‘making decision anew every day’. Read Blog Post
After Louisa Leontiades (@AskLouloria) wrote The Mass Exodus of Polyamorous People Toward Relationship Anarchy, some people felt as though the term relationship anarchy was being appropriated. This article reflects on that, and explains what relationship anarchy means to her. Read The Appropriation of Relationship Anarchy by Non-Anarchists
Janani Balasubramanian writes for Black Girl Dangerous (@BGDblog) about power dynamics in poly relationships. All of these are good to keep in mind, #8 especially applies to RA: Recognize that your non-romantic and non-sexual relationships are also real and valid! Keep your understanding of love broad and political accordingly. Read 9 Strategies for Non-Oppressive Polyamory
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. Today I want to talk about relationship rules, and why I don’t have any, and boundaries, and why I think they are really important. Both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships can have rules. These rules can be either assumed or explicitly agreed upon. For example, it is common for a monogamous…
A very good article by The Critical Polyamorist (@CriticalPoly), where she examines her relationship with nonmonogamy, how she has struggled against a couple-centric, rule bound society and how she works daily against her conditioned monogamy.
Full Transcript: Hi! I’m Kale. I’m going to talk about relationship anarchy today. Relationship anarchy (or RA for short) is a a way of practicing relationships. The idea was developed in Sweden in the early 2000s, and the term relationship anarchy is credited to Andie Nordgren. RA is similar to polyamory, and some may say…