Janani Balasubramanian writes for Black Girl Dangerous (@BGDblog) about power dynamics in poly relationships. All of these are good to keep in mind, #8 especially applies to RA: Recognize that your non-romantic and non-sexual relationships are also real and valid! Keep your understanding of love broad and political accordingly.
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. In my last video I talked about replacing rules with personal boundaries. Today I want to talk about how to communicate needs without using rules. Having rules is about controlling behaviour. Having clear boundaries is about taking responsibility for yourself, rather than shifting it onto someone else. A rules is…
Rob Martin (@version2beta) on @Medium explains consent using different scenarios, breaking it down into five categories: natural, explicit, implicit, delegated and appropriated. He writes that consent is a central tenet of relationship anarchy, and uses it to compare and contrast different relationship models to RA. Read Relationship Anarchy and Consent
Carolyn Yates (@c_yates) interviews Josie Kearns, a 33 year-old queer, poly, white, trans woman about opening up her relationship, identifying as a relationship anarchist and living in an intentional community. Read Poly Pocket: Building Intentional Community and Relationship Anarchy
Originally posted in 2006 on a Swedish website. Written by Andie Nordgren (@nordgren), one of the first people to use the term relationship anarchy. This is a great starting point for someone just starting to look into RA. It has nine short paragraphs that cover the basics, from valuing each relationship independently to designing commitments…
Mel Mariposa (@PolySingleish) writes about the downside of Radical Self Reliance, one of the ten principles of Burning Man. She examines the problems with placing individuals above community, and how intimacy and compassion suffer when Radical Self Reliance trumps connecting to the people around you. Read Radical Self Reliance and Community Responsibility
Belenen (@belenen) on why they identify as a relationship anarchist. How do we make space for growth in our relationships, and value them beyond the standard escalator model? They write about relationships being ‘continuously voluntary associations’ and commitments as ‘making decision anew every day’. Read Blog Post