A really great article, written by an asexual and very relevant to RA. In Part 1, David Jay (@davidgljay) discusses replacing words like boyfriend/girlfriend and romance with relationship, and the freedom that allows for.
Most likely written pre-2007, Dean Spade discusses non-monogamous relationships in queer, trans, feminist, anti-capitalist spaces. Also included in the previously posted zine Doin’ it and Doin’ it and Doin’ it Well? Read for Lovers and Fighters
Clare Wiley (@Clare_Wiley) interviewed Mel Mariposa (@PolySingleish), Meg-John Barker (@megjohnbarker) and myself (@RAisTweeting), to talk about the rise of relationship anarchy, what it means for us, and why we put the work in. Read Relationship Anarchy Takes The Judgement Out of Love
Although this piece by Briallen Hopper (@briallenhopper) on @TheCut doesn’t mention relationship anarchy at all, it is a really well written and thoughtful piece about the way society values couples over friendships. As someone who has always put a ton of energy into my friendships, this article really spoke to me. Read Relying on Friendship…
Originally posted in 2006 on a Swedish website. Written by Andie Nordgren (@nordgren), one of the first people to use the term relationship anarchy. This is a great starting point for someone just starting to look into RA. It has nine short paragraphs that cover the basics, from valuing each relationship independently to designing commitments…
After reading The Problem With Polynormativity, Eve Rickert (@everickert) posts a helpful discussion about what hierarchy in relationships looks like. She gives some real life examples, talks about needs, boundaries, and personal agency. Read Polyamory and Hierarchy
The Thinking Asexual questions how to create equality in relationships with the words we use to describe them. The word “partner” has a lot of meaning attached to it from the monogamous world, meaning that relationship anarchy seeks to reject. With the limited words we have, what is the alternative to partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband,…