Is the most romantic thing you can say to a partner ‘I don’t need you’? This is a short post about dismantling the idea of That Special Someone, and keeping people in your life because you want them there, not because you need things from them.
This is a short blog post in which the author answers the question What does relationship anarchy mean to you? If you asked yourself the same question, what would your answer be? Read What does ‘Relationship Anarchy’ mean to you?
Zine by Andie Lyons and Shannon Perez-Darby (@PerezDarby) written in 2007 about being ‘two radically queer kids’ in Denver in 2007, from the Queer Zines Archine Project. Written around the same time as Andie Nordgren was first using the term Relationship Anarchy, you can see the seeds if it here. ‘I try to treat the people…
An article on Psychology Today (@PsychToday), written by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff (@drelisheff1), who is a global expert on polyamory and also the author of The Polyamorists Next Door. In this article, she explore the spectrum of non-monogamy, from cheating (unethical, non-consensual non-monogamy) through polygamy, swinging and RA. Read Seven Forms of Non-Monogamy
As a relationship anarchist, you are constantly bumping up against the status quo. Dr. Joni Meenagh (@JoniMeenagh) wrote this post for the Dangerous Women Project (@DangerousWomen_) about ways we might value relationship structures beyond the couple. Read Challenging Marital Status
Janani Balasubramanian writes for Black Girl Dangerous (@BGDblog) about power dynamics in poly relationships. All of these are good to keep in mind, #8 especially applies to RA: Recognize that your non-romantic and non-sexual relationships are also real and valid! Keep your understanding of love broad and political accordingly. Read 9 Strategies for Non-Oppressive Polyamory
A very good article by The Critical Polyamorist (@CriticalPoly), where she examines her relationship with nonmonogamy, how she has struggled against a couple-centric, rule bound society and how she works daily against her conditioned monogamy.