Full Transcript Hi, I’m Kale. Today I wanted to talk about switching up our ideas of romance and friendship a little. About how we can be more romantic towards our friends and more friendly towards our romantic partners. Society often places a hierarchy on our romantic or sexual partners over our friends. Romantic, sexual relationships…
Carolyn Yates (@c_yates) interviews Josie Kearns, a 33 year-old queer, poly, white, trans woman about opening up her relationship, identifying as a relationship anarchist and living in an intentional community. Read Poly Pocket: Building Intentional Community and Relationship Anarchy
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. Today I want to talk about how we tend to look at a relationship as either a success or a failure, and how that idea can be a fallacy. Our society tends to have a very limited definition of success when it comes to a relationship – generally it is…
Hi, I’m Kale! Today I want to talk about coming out as a relationship anarchist or a non-monogamist. I know that I am in a very privileged position to be out so openly. I don’t think I could be much more out than to be on here making videos. I have been able to come…
Full Transcript Hi, I’m Kale. Today I wanted to talk about the ways we show love when we are super busy humans and we don’t have a ton of time. There are a lot traditional ways of showing someone that you care about them. One of the biggest ones is how much time you spend…
Hi, I’m Kale. Today I want to clear up some misconceptions about relationship anarchy and commitment. I’ve had some people say to me ‘I couldn’t handle relationship anarchy, I need commitment!’ It seems that since many people associate relationship anarchy with chaos, they also assume that to be a relationship anarchist means to not have…
Hi, I’m Kale. Today I’m going to talk about the problems with unicorn hunting. I’ll start with What the heck is unicorn hunting? Generally speaking, here is what it looks like: A couple, who are progressive and open minded, have typically been together a while and have decided to open their relationship and try polyamory….
Hi, I’m Kale. Today I want to talk about the differences between relationship anarchy and non-hierarchical polyamory. First, I should give a quick explanation of what hierarchical polyamory is. Hierarchical Polyamory Polyamory (or poly for short) is the practice of having multiple, simultaneous, consensual relationships. Hierarchical poly is when there is a ranking system among…
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale! Today I want to talk about why I stopped using the relationship status feature on Facebook. When you practice non-traditional relationships, it’s not unusual to notice how the world around you is focused on the almighty Couple. You constantly bump in to social structures that reinforce that two is the…
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. Today I wanted to talk about when relationships transition. In traditional relationships, the trajectory is set – date, move in, get married, have kids. Or possibly at some point along that path, break up. Then meet new person to date and start the cycle over again. So what happens when…
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. Today I want to talk about the Anarchy in Relationship Anarchy. People have a lot of funny ideas about anarchy in general, so let’s talk about that. Most of us probably have had very little exposure to anarchistic principles. It might make you think of grade school, and the time…
Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. In my last video I talked about replacing rules with personal boundaries. Today I want to talk about how to communicate needs without using rules. Having rules is about controlling behaviour. Having clear boundaries is about taking responsibility for yourself, rather than shifting it onto someone else. A rules is…