Full Transcript: Hi, I’m Kale. In my last video I talked about replacing rules with personal boundaries. Today I want to talk about how to communicate needs without using rules. Having rules is about controlling behaviour. Having clear boundaries is about taking responsibility for yourself, rather than shifting it onto someone else. A rules is…
Originally posted in 2006 on a Swedish website. Written by Andie Nordgren (@nordgren), one of the first people to use the term relationship anarchy. This is a great starting point for someone just starting to look into RA. It has nine short paragraphs that cover the basics, from valuing each relationship independently to designing commitments…
Stephanie Pappas in Scientific American (@sciam) discusses how research on the poly community is growing. Scientist are finding that compared to monogamous folks, poly people are better at communicating and self reflection, and practice safer sex. Best quote from the article: “People in these relationships really communicate. They communicate to death.” Read New Sexual Revolution:…
Dr. Charlie Glickman (@charlieglickman), a sex educator and author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, wrote a blog post about Consent Accidents, which he defines as different from consent violations. Consent accidents ‘happen because of error, miscommunication, misunderstanding, or not having all the information.’ What should we do if we violate a person’s consent…
This is part 1 of a 6 part piece ‘Of relationship anarchy, accessibility and sitting shiva’. The first three parts are relevant to RA so I’m posting links to those three. Blogger Rotten Zucchini’s writes about what is often missing from the discourse on relationship anarchy – the anarchy itself. Read Part 1: The anarchism of…